To the Boy Who Made Me a Mom
Dear Son,
You have changed me. You have made me a mother – the greatest role of my lifetime. I didn’t know how much I wanted to be a mother until I became a mother to you. I have never experienced another love like this.
You have made me tired, but I am so in love. When you were placed in my arms for the first time, my heart exploded with the amount of love I had for you even though I just met you. I may not sleep as much, but my lack of sleep is forgotten during those tender middle-of-the-night feedings, when it’s just me and you, sitting in the rocking chair, your little body curled against mine. I may have a loads of laundry and piles of dishes to do, but all of that is swept from my mind when I’m swaying you back to sleep, your big eyes slowly closing, your tiny fingers wrapped around mine. These moments are fleeting and I am going to savor each one.
You have made my body softer, but I am beautiful. My body changed while I was pregnant with you, ever expanding and changing shapes to make room for the growing you. It continued to amaze me when I gave birth to you, allowing me to realize how strong my body is. During the first six months of your life, my body provided you with your only source of nutrition. My body may be different than it was before you existed, but I love it more now because without it, I wouldn’t have you.
You have made the marriage between me and your father different, but our love is stronger. There’s nothing like true love when you are changing a poopy diaper together. With you in our lives, we realize we are partners, working together to raise an individual to be compassionate and kind. As I watch your father kiss you on your forehead or slow dance you back to sleep, I love him exponentially more than the day we got married. I said in my vows to your father that “Without you, the bad days would be darker and the good days wouldn’t shine as bright”. Now, this vow apply to you and how much you complete us.
Finally, you made me…me. My identity is not just myself anymore. I am no longer just a daughter, a sister, or a wife. I am now somebody’s mother! Your mother! This is the best version of myself. When I look at you and you’re smiling your toothy smile back, there’s nobody else I’d rather be. I’m excited for our adventure together and I know the best is yet to come.
Thank you for making me a mother.
Love,
Mommy
This is so sweet and I love seeing this pictures of you and your little boy. This post is so relatable for many mothers.
This is so sweet. It is so life changing to have kids too.
Hi Jenny! Thank you so much for your kind words and for reading 🙂
What an endearing article! My oldest child and youngest child are boys and they are indeed special. I love the relationship I have with my boys and have expressed some of these same sentiments to them. Now, don’t get me wrong…they absolutely test me but I wouldn’t trade them for the world!
Hi Lea! Isn’t it a boy’s job to test their mom, but love them so much at the same time? 😉 Thank you so much for reading!
What’s a beautiful letter! I keep a handwritten journal for my son with letters like these.
Hi Jessica, thank you so much! That is a great idea to keep a handwritten journal! There’s something special about a letter written by hand. I think I’ll start this too! Thank you for the tip 🙂
Isn’t it amazing how children can change how we see ourselves? What a sweet and lovely post.
Yes, it’s amazing that I could feel this intensely with just a little person. Thank you for your kind words!
So, so sweet!! I just became a ‘boy mom’ about 6 months ago and it’s funny how different it feels from my first being a girl. Boys are so special!
Hi Sarah, congratulations on your baby boy! I totally agree that boys are so much fun. Now I just have to wait and see if I can be a girl mom too 😉
What a beautiful post. I have a son and the mother-son connection is beautiful <3
Hi Lorena, I totally agree! My relationship with him is one of a kind! <3
Thank you for sharing your lovely story. My son was our rainbow baby and i am grateful for him each and everyday.
Hi Margaret, I am so sorry for your loss. Our love for our children is so amazing!
This is beautiful. I relate to this so much.
Hey Jessica! Thank you so much for your kind words!
beautifully written article and a very cool blog too!
Hi Carol, thank you so much for your kinds words and for stopping by!
I loved reading this. I too was made mother by a son! I wish I had written him a letter like this.
Trish
What a joy! They change us and make us better all at the same time.
I love this. I’ve been wanting to write letters to my kiddos and this is inspiring.
Love this! It is so true that a piece of our identity becomes our children. They change our lives in such sweet ways!
Hi Stacy, I have to totally agree that children change our lives to something so great and beyond our wildest dreams! Thank you so much for reading!
I absolutely love this. I love writing letters to my son because he is the most amazing thing I have ever created and he means the world to me. Amazing. Thank you so much for sharing.
Hi Tresa! I like the idea of writing letters on a regular basis! I also heard of some parents opening up an email account and sending emails to there to track milestones and celebrations!
What an endearing letter. I wish your child can read this in the future to know your struggles and intense love for him. Motherhood is truly life changing for the better version of a woman. Keep doing great mommy. You are blessed 🙂
Hi Nessly, thank you so much for your kind words! I truly cannot wait for him to read this when he is older and know the unconditional love that I have for him. <3
Beautiful words. My son made me a mother, too. That was 10 years ago. It seems like yesterday! Reading this brought back all the memories. The sleepless nights, the snuggles, and kisses. I tear up just thinking about it. I say he’s my guinea pig baby. I learned to be a parent with him and am still learning. Every year is different than the last
Hi Rebecca! Thank you for sharing your experiences! Parenthood is an amazing adventure and I can’t wait to see what’s in store!
Sweet letter. So many truth in it. Your son is going to value and treasure it forever.
Hi Edel! Thank you for your kind words! 🙂
Sorry, I meant Remy. And love the picture!
Love your post! Very appropriate for Mother’s Day. Temy will love to read this in a few years.
Thank you for your comment, H! I can’t wait for Remy to read this letter when he’s older 🙂